How to deal with the pain…

Posted on July 2, 2009



It’s no doubt that in life, leaders will disappoint us. Regardless of your position, talent, and heart, we are all susceptible to temptation and desires that surround us everyday. However, it seems to hurt worst when it’s a leader we respect and admire. Whether in business, in church, or in your own family, moral failure is devastating- leaving us disillusioned, frustrated, and bitter. The leader may be getting help but what are some things that we can do to begin the healing process in our own lives? A friend of mine with experience counseling those in this kind of grief offered some advice with how to deal:

  • It’s not about a finish line – though there will be one – but more about creating a new way of living life for the fallen leader.
  • We want to get leader and his family on a new road to holistic health  physically, emotionally, and spiritually.
  • Beware of the temptation to have the leader be our scapegoat (we place our blame) or identified patient (try and fix them without looking inward).
  • Beware of the temptation for get sucked into the drama of the moment.
  • The leader will be ahead of us on the grief and recovery path.
  • We will be ahead of others, so it’s important to help those that are following.
  • Lean on radical grace.
  • There is truly a war going on for our lives.

Regardless if you in the profit or non-profit world, good character and integrity is the key to survival in a world waiting for you to fall. Have relationships of accountability, be approachable, and ask for help quickly.